Dear Unforgiving Self


Good morning Unforgiving Self,

As you drink your coffee and think about your day please allow me a moment to speak truth into your heart and soul. Here it is. Are you ready? Listen up because this is good. So good in fact, it could c h a n g e  y o u r  l i f e. Let me ask you a question, but you don’t need to answer right away. Just think about it. This thing you can’t forgive from someone (or them)…HOW IS THAT WORKING OUT FOR YOU? Now I’m not looking for the cheap answer, the easy answer nor the go-to answer. Just think about it. That thing that they did to you or that thing that happened that you can’t overlook or get passed, how is hanging that over their head WORKING OUT FOR YOU? I know, I know. The bitterness, the justifying sense of judgement you feel keeps you….safe, secure, in control, better than, superior, stronger (you can add whatever words you want to this list). But really now, HOW IS THAT WORKING OUT FOR YOU? Do you see how your bitterness defines you? Not them. You! Do you see how this attitude of yours betrays you? Not them. You! Do you see how this controls YOU? Not them. YOU!

Now I am saying because I know you. I understand you. I am you. This forgiveness thing is beyond you. I mean, this security blanket of control and bitterness has kept you warm and comfortable. You’re used to it. It’s always served you well. You get a pass on your behavior because of them. You need someone not to forgive. You need a villain so you can be the superhero of your own life. But the reality is, your superhero cape is a prison, a blanket of chains and thorns that keep you from breaking free and experiencing GRACE. Grace to receive and grace to give. Oh a cactus is gorgeous, they are, but they are not safe. Your unforgiving ways are not safe, not to you and not to others. And guess what, people can see right through you! You think you have everyone else figured out but the joke is on you – your unforgiving ways have permeated every relationship you’ve ever had. Aren’t you tired…of YOU!

So last thing before you finish your coffee and get up from your chair and do those all important things in your day…think about it. What if you did forgive today? What if you let it go and kept letting it go? What if you freed them from your judgement? You know what would happen? I’ll tell you. You wouldn’t be freeing THEM. You would be freeing   YOU.

Okay, now really the last thing…you don’t believe me, Your Forgiving Self? Than take this and let it seep into you, every fiber of your being:

Matthew 6:14-15

For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Those words are from the only One who could really have the power not to forgive our sins…JESUS, but He not only forgave those sins. He took them upon Himself, wiped us clean and never held it over our heads. So if forgiving is like Jesus, then unforgiving is…well I don’t have to tell you. You’ve been living it. But you don’t have to anymore.

Forgive and live!



By SoniaG

Who me...? Just a woman who Jesus met at a well in 2009, and He changed her life forever.

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